my proposal was both planned out and completely spontaneous.
David had been trying to think of a way to make this official for quite some time with his lack of money, and after I told him I'd be happy with a rubber band around my finger, he went to his grandma to ask if there was an heirloom she could donate. She gave him a sterling silver ring with three garnets in it. David looked up the symbolic meanings of garnets and loved that they signify guidance and protection and he felt that it described our relationship well. Anyway, the ring was way too big for me, so he went to get it re-sized. Turns out, it had some kind of coating on it that wouldn't allow it to be re-sized. While he was at the jewelry store, another ring stood out to him - when he asked about it, the jeweler told him the stone was indeed a garnet and it was within his (mostly non-existant) price range! he bought it right away.
So, fast forward to when I come into to town. On Monday, he asked his sister (my friend, Sarah) to entertain/distract me for the day so he could plan a "Christmas surprise" with my parents. He then drove down to my house and asked my dad's permission and blessing to marry me. My dad quickly obliged and they had a long conversation about it. In the meantime, Sarah and I had picked up a few more friends and were trying to decide what to do for the evening. By the time David had gotten home, I called him and invited him to our get together, and he suggested we all go over to his place and then decide on a place to go for dinner. We played a board game while waiting for another friend, and David pulled one of my friends aside, asking her if she had a camera and told her to have it ready because something was going to happen. As we all got up to go to dinner, David got on one knee and asked me as my friends stood in shock and snapped pictures. (I essentially unknowingly invited all of my best friends to my own engagement).
Afterwards, David and I went out to dinner to Mimi's cafe - which is the first place we went on a real date and have had many memories there since, and then met back up with my friends.
My ring is a 14 karat gold band with an oval cut garnet surrounded by 12 small diamonds. It is very different than what I expected, but with the story behind it and the thought David put into it, it is very much mine, and I love it very much.